“Things happen for a reason.”
This sentence never fails to make my head shake. It posits that our life is planned and we’ll all live happily ever after, or that there’s “great plan” for each of us, which isn’t always the case, as you will see with people whose lives are already done.
Sure, there are good things that can actually happen after taking a “wrong” route in your life. But I don’t think you actually took the wrong route just so you’ll end up having that good thing because if a wrong route always yields into a good thing, then humans will just keep on taking wrong routes, won’t they? Or are they insinuating too that humans have no freewill and things just happen as how they should be? We should not imprison anyone then while we’re at this mindset.
Try telling a person who was amputated, raped, died (if you can reach his soul via whatever) that things happen for a reason and let’s see if they won’t murder you for it (“Killing you will happen for a reason, trust me!”).
Whatever good thing that happens after is just incidental and actually not a product of the bad thing that happened first.
“My scalp burned last year and now I’m married to Robb Stark. Oh my god, things happen for a reason, really.”
If that’s the case, all westerosis would actually burn their scalps now. But it’s not. This thinking is just an example of Post-Hoc Fallacy in Arguments.
It’s a comforting thought that things happen for a reason, but they do not. We just make a reason out of them, make them mean something, make ourselves feel better.
Well I’m (not) sorry that you won’t find comfort anymore from this little phrase, but you know what? Life is very random and while you keep on getting undesirable things in your life, you can trust it to eventually give you something brilliant– provided you’ll work hard and cleverly for it, son.